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PARENT TEEN CONNECTION CONFERENCE NOTES
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Day One
DR. DANIEL SIEGEL
Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain
Dr. Daniel Siegel is a clinical professor of psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine and the Executive Director of the Mindsight Institute. He has authored or co-authored several books including Parenting from the Inside Out, the Whole Brain Child, No Drama Discipline, The Yes Brain, and most recently, Aware.
Summary:
The message parents get in our culture is to fearfully anticipate the teen years, and then just try to survive them. Dr. Daniel Siegel looked at the research about the adolescent mind and wrote his book–Brainstorm–to tell a different story. He writes that “the adolescent period of life is in reality the one with the most power for courage and creativity. Life is on fire when we hit our teens. And these changes are not something to avoid or just get through but to encourage.” Dan talks about the myths of the teen brain and why it’s such an exciting stage of human development.
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Dr. William Stixrud & Ned Johnson
Intrinsic Motivation: Why Carrots and Sticks Don’t Work and What to Do Instead
Dr. William Stixrud is a clinical neuropsychologist and a faculty member at Children’s National and the George Washington University School of Medicine. He lectures widely on the adolescent brain, motivation, and the effects of stress, sleep deprivation, and technology overload on the brain.
Ned Johnson is the founder of PrepMatters, a tutoring service in Washington, DC. He is a sought after speaker and teen coach for study skills, parent-teen dynamics, ad anxiety management and his work has been featured on NPR, the U.S. News and World Report, Time, the Washington Post and the Wall Street Journal.
Summary:
Bill and Ned talk about intrinsic motivation–why we want our kids to have it and why carrots and sticks ultimately don’t work. They talk about how you wean a child off of rewards and consequences after parents have come to rely on them? And how do we avoid using rewards and punishments with our kids in the first place? Sharing fun stories, current research and their professional experience working with families, Bill and Ned will leave you relieved and reassured.
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DR. WILLIAM STIXRUD & NED JOHNSON
What Do You Say to Help Kids Be Resilient and Self Motivated
Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson have co-authored The Self Driven Child and their brand new book What Do You Say?
Dr. William Stixrud is a clinical neuropsychologist and a faculty member at Children’s National and the George Washington University School of Medicine. He lectures widely on the adolescent brain, motivation, and the effects of stress, sleep deprivation, and technology overload on the brain.
Ned Johnson is the founder of PrepMatters, a tutoring service in Washington, DC. He is a sought after speaker and teen coach for study skills, parent-teen dynamics, ad anxiety management and his work has been featured on NPR, the U.S. News and World Report, Time, the Washington Post and the Wall Street Journal.
Summary:
As parents we want our children to be happy, but often we push them towards things that don’t actually create lasting happiness, like good grades in school, top-rated universities, and high-paying jobs. The things that create the most happiness, according to the research, are deep connection with other people, belonging and purpose, meaning, engagement, and fulfillment. In this conversation with Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson, they talk about how to raise kids who are happy and fulfilled, who are self-motivated, who are resilient during tough times, and who have meaning and purpose in their lives.
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SETH PERLER
Executive Functioning and Supporting the Struggling Student
Seth Perler is a teacher turned Education Coach, who specializes in Executive Function and 2e. He helps struggling students navigate the educational landscape while doing his part to “disrupt” and improve education.
Summary:
Seth Perler says that in our society there is a huge misunderstanding happening with kids who struggle in school. It’s the difference between “can’t” vs “won’t”. When kids are struggling, most often the assumption is that they “won’t” pay attention, get their work done, or push themselves. However, in Seth’s work with tons of bright-but-struggling kids, he sees kids who want to do all those great things, but who can’t (for various reasons, in that particular moment). How do we develop the kind of relationship with our struggling kids so that we can understand what is really going on for them and problem solve together? This is what Seth talks about! If your child is struggling in school, get ready for a fast-paced, inspiring, and practical conversation.
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DEBBIE REBER
How to Raise a Differently Wired Child
Debbie Reber is a parenting activist, New York Times bestselling author, keynote speaker, and the founder of TiLT Parenting, a website, top podcast, and social media community for parents who are raising differently wired children. Her newest book is Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World.
Summary:
What happens when your child is different than what you expect? Is differently wired? Has mental health struggles or academic struggles in school? As a parent how do we accept and support our child especially with their education? We ask Debbie about her ideas and specific strategies for struggling students. We talk about different approaches towards education including homeschooling and unschooling.
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Differently Wired 7 Day Challenge
Tilt Education (to sign up for my PDF on How to Choose a School)
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Day Two
DR. KRISTIN NEFF
Self Compassion: Why Adolescents Need It & How to Help Them Find It
Dr. Kristin Neff is currently an Associate Professor of Educational Psychology at the University of Texas at Austin. She is a pioneer in the field of self-compassion research, conducting the first empirical studies on self-compassion over a decade ago. In addition to writing numerous academic articles and book chapters on the topic, she is author of the book “Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself”. In conjunction with her colleague Dr. Chris Germer, she has developed an empirically supported eight-week training program called Mindful Self-Compassion, and offers workshops on self-compassion worldwide. An eight-week online self-compassion training program presented with Dr. Germer is also available through Sounds True. Kristin is also featured in the bestselling book and award-winning documentary The Horse Boy, which chronicles her family’s journey to Mongolia where they trekked on horseback to find healing for her autistic son.
Summary:
Dr. Kristin Neff shares what is now known about self-compassion and adolescents. Research shows that self-compassion makes a difference with adolescents who are students or athletes, or have anxiety, depression, or do emotional eating, or are LGBTQ. Kristin shares how to teach our children self-compassion while also helping them to correct their mistakes and not be stopped by failure.
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JANINE HALLORAN
Coping skills for teens with stress, anxiety, and anger
Summary:
Teens are experiencing more stress than in previous generations. Teens also sometimes worry and feel angry. Janine Halloran says, “Emotions aren’t good or bad, they just are. What matters is what you do with those emotions.” Janine–and her book–help teens know what to do with their emotions. She understands teens, how to talk to them and how to help them deal with stress, anxiety and anger. There are 4 basic ways that humans handle stress. Janine talks about each area and gives examples of activities that you can use with the adolescent in your life (or even with yourself)! What to do if your child doesn't want to talk and how to come up with a plan for their anxiety or any high intensity moment.
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Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart is a Pediatric Psychologist. She is Board Certified in Clinical Child and Adolescent Psychology. She is the Founder and Owner of A New Day Pediatric Psychology. Originally from St. Croix in the U.S. Virgin Islands, she considers herself a “dual-citizen” of Texas and the Caribbean. She specializes in treating ADHD, Depression, Anxiety, and medical diagnoses.
Summary:
Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart describes highly sensitive kids, the 10-15% of the population is more sensitive to noise, social situations, transitions, smells, etc. She talks about how you can parent a highly sensitive child, why you don’t want to “toughen them up”, how to help your child regulate their feelings, and how to help your child develop a secure attachment. We also have a great conversation about what to do if you and your partner don’t agree on parenting, even if you don’t have a highly sensitive child, you won’t want to miss this part!
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Jennifer Miller
Parenting with Presence in an Age of Anxiety
For over twenty years, Jennifer Miller has worked with educators and families to help them become more effective with children through social and emotional learning. She is author and illustrator of the blog, Confident Parents, Confident Kids and writes for numerous publications. She’s an expert contributor to NBC Universal’s Parent Toolkit. She has contributed to two books, “Smart Parents, Parenting for Powerful Learning” and “Building Powerful Learning Environments from Schools to Communities.” She does coaching, webinars, curriculum development, consultation and workshops in Ohio and nationally. She has her master’s degree in Instructional Leadership with a focus on social and emotional development. She lives with her husband and nine-year-old son in Columbus, Ohio.
Summary:
Our kids learn how to handle their worries and fears by watching us handle our own. So what do you do if you’re an anxious parent? Jennifer Miller has some answers… for us and for our kids. Her message is reassuring, based on her real-life experience as a parent and educator, plus she’s grounded in the science of social emotional learning.
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RENEE JAIN
Helping kids overcome stress, worry, and negativity to find meaning and purpose
Renee Jain is the founder and Chief Storyteller of GoZen!, an online social and emotional learning program that helps kids cultivate basic coping techniques to overcome stress, anxiety, worry, anger, perfectionism, and negativity, as well as develop life skills to find meaning, purpose, and engagement in their lives. Renee founded GoZen! because she experienced anxiety as a child. As an adult, she wanted to share the tools from her formal education, her master’s degree in psychology, and personal experience, to help others.
Summary:
Renee Jain is a master at explaining feelings, normalizing the worry, stress, and anxiety that a lot of kids and parents feel, and shining the light on ways to address our adult emotions, as well as those of our kids. In this wide-ranging conversation, we learn why some amount of anxiety is normal and good, what to do if a child has a panic attack, and how to support a child who has a lot of negative self-judgment. With her reassuring presence and interesting stories, Renee shows how we can get off the roller coaster of emotions and support our kids with their feelings too.
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DR. DAN PETERS
Anxiety in Kids: What Parents Can Do to Help
Dr. Daniel Peters is a psychologist, author, Co-founder of Parent Footprint, host of the “Parent Footprint Podcast with Dr. Dan” and the Executive Director of the Summit Center, specializing in the assessment and treatment of children, adolescents, and families, with gifted, talented, and creative individuals, as well as anxiety, learning differences, dyslexia and more. He is a regular contributor to The Huffington Post and Psychology Today, and he speaks regularly at national conferences.
Summary:
Dr. Dan Peters explains why kids get worried and what anxiety looks like. The good news is there are many things that a parent can do when their child has anxiety–without having to go to a professional. Dan also explains when to seek additional help, how to handle chronic stress, and importance of looking at our own worries when trying to support our kids to handle theirs.
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Day Three
DR. LAURA MARKHAM
Tech, Social Media, Emotional Health and Resilience
Dr. Laura Markham is the author of Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids and Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings. She is the founding editor of AhaParenting which reaches over 140,000 parents per week. Dr. Laura’s aspiration is to change the world, one child at a time, by supporting parents.
Summary:
Dr. Laura Markham talks about how when kids are emotionally healthy, they aren’t as vulnerable to tech addiction. She shares developmentally appropriate recommendations for screen time at various ages and stages, and suggestions for building resilience. Dr. Laura talks about the value of your relationship with your children, communicating with them, and helping them develop self regulation.
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DR. DEVORAH HEITNER
How To Not Freak Out About Kids And Phones, Plus Practical Solutions
Dr. Devorah Heitner is the author of Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive (and Survive) in Their Digital World. Her upcoming book about navigating privacy and reputation with kids and teens is called Growing Up in Public. Dr. Heitner’s work has appeared in the New York Times, the Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, and CNN Opinion. She has a Ph.D. in Media/Technology & Society from Northwestern University and has taught at DePaul and Northwestern.
Summary:
This reassuring conversation with Dr. Devorah Heitner will hear what kids are doing (and not doing) on their phones and on screens. Devorah talks about what to do to supervise kids, at various stages, so that the content they see is appropriate. You will hear helpful guidance about what conversations to have with kids about what they’ve seen on screens, you’ll hear essential topics to cover before getting a phone, how to help kids balance their technology use with other things in their life, and how kids can use social media or gaming as a bridge to developing social skills.
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JANELL BURLEY HOFMANN
iRules: What Every Tech-Healthy Family Needs to Know About Selfies, Sexting, Gaming and Growing Up
Janell Burley Hofmann is the author of the book, iRules: What Every Tech-Healthy Family Needs to Know About Selfies, Sexting, Gaming and Growing Up. She is also a speaker and consultant on topics like technology, media, health, relationships and personal growth. Janell serves families, schools and communities in a partnership that will positively impact the lives of children and teens.
Summary:
Janell Burley Hofmann talks about how we communicate to young children to protect them from what they might find online, and how we could talk to them afterward if we discover that they have been exposed to inappropriate content. Janell shares what kids need to know at each developmental level and also about the importance of a Tech Curfew.
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DR. STUART SHANKER
Self-Reg: How to Help Your Child Break the Stress Cycle and Successfully Engage With Life
Dr. Shanker is the Founder and Science Director of the Self-Regulation Institute and the CEO of The MEHRIT Centre. He has authored several books including “Calm, Alert and Learning: Classroom Strategies for Self-Regulation”, and most recently “Self-Reg: How to Help Your Child (and You) Break the Stress Cycle and Successfully Engage With Life”. Dr. Shanker has served as an advisor on early child development to government organizations across Canada, the United States, and other countries.
Summary:
Dr. Stuart Shanker says that self regulation is how kids (and adults) deal with stress. Self regulation skills are essential because there are healthy and unhealthy ways to deal with stress. When kids use technology–like social media, watching a video, or playing a game–to deal with stress they actually feel worse afterward, and the stress is still there. While kids who use exercise, art, or time with others, feel better afterward.
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LENORE SKENAZY
Free Range Kids in a High Tech Age
Lenore Skenazy is a blogger, columnist, and author. She got massive media attention and was dubbed, “America’s Worst Mom” when she let her then-9-year-old son take the New York City Subway home alone. In response, Lenore founded the book, blog, and movement “Free-Range Kids” and a new non-profit organization “Let Grow”, with the aim of “fighting the belief that our children are in constant danger from creeps, kidnapping, germs, grades, flashers, frustration, failure, baby snatchers, bugs, bullies, men, sleepovers and the perils of a non-organic grape.
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In this hilarious conversation, Lenore Skenazy explains why kids growing up today in the US (and many other English speaking countries) have very little freedom in comparison to their parents, even though crime is at a record low. Computers and phones give parents the ability to monitor children (their location, their vital signs, their grades, etc) in unprecedented ways, however these technological advances might impact our relationship with our kids, slow their development, and actually not keep kids any safer or help us parents be any calmer! Lenore talks about how the Let Grow non-profit program is changing schools and communities at no cost, and making it easy, normal and legal to give kids freedom.
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DR. ROSS GREENE
How to Help a Teen Get Off a Video Game Without Using Consequences
Ross is the originator of the innovative, empirically-supported approach now known as Collaborative & Proactive Solutions (CPS), as described in his influential books The Explosive Child and Lost at School. Dr. Greene served on the teaching faculty at Harvard Medical School for over 20 years, and is currently adjunct associate professor in the Department of Psychology at Virginia Tech. He is also the Founding Director of the non-profit Lives in the Balance, which provides free, web-based resources on the CPS model; support and advocacy for behaviorally challenging kids and their caregivers; takes a strong stand against the use of corporal punishment at home and school, the use of restraint and seclusion in schools and restrictive therapeutic facilities, and the use of detention, suspension, and expulsion in schools, preschools, and daycare settings; and advocates for interventions that are non-punitive and non-adversarial. Dr. Greene lectures and provides consultation to families, schools, and restrictive therapeutic facilities throughout the world and lives in Portland, Maine, with his wife and two kids.
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Dr. Ross Greene says that kids do well when they can… when they can’t, it’s because of unsolved problems and lagging skills. Ross talks about why adult imposed consequences (time out, detention, spanking, etc) don’t work, and he demonstrates what parents can do instead. We asked Ross how he would work with a young teen who is having difficulty getting off a video game. You won’t want to miss his response!
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Day Four
JO LANGFORD
The Gender Revolution: How to Support LGBT+ Youth
Jo is a dad, therapist, and sex educator for tweens and teens. He helps parents and professionals increase their sex education knowledge and self-confidence. His work includes LGBT issues, Internet safety, and digital citizenship. His latest book, The Pride Guide, is the first puberty book written for queer and trans youth and their families and is a guide to sexual and social development, safety and health for queer youth.
Summary:
When we were kids, everyone was either a boy or a girl, now things have changed. There are new terms–cisgender, non-binary, pansexual, and gender-fluid. What does this all mean? Jo Langford helps us sort out the terms and suggest what parents (and communities) can do to support LGBT+ youth. This is an important conversation–even if your child is “straight”–because this is the culture youth are growing up in and parent/community support is a life-saver… literally.
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Rosalind Wiseman
Healthy Friendships for Girls in a Socially Complex World
Summary:
Because Rosalind Wiseman is in conversations with teens constantly, she understands deeply their emotional and social struggles. In this interview and in her work, she allows parents an honest, sometimes uncomfortable and challenging, glimpse into what it means to be a girl or a boy in our current culture. She talks about the needs for teens to have privacy, in a technological world in which there is no privacy. She shares the importance of parents truly listening to their kids and responding from a place of wholeness (rather than reacting with fear). Rosalind offers valuable tools for how to help a child navigate the complexities of friendships and intimate relationships.
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Stephanie Brill is the founder of Gender Spectrum and a thought leader in the field of gender diversity in children. She is the author of four books including The Transgender Teen and The Transgender Child. Her work has been featured on 20/20, Fox News and Fox Radio, San Francisco Chronicle, and The New York Times.
Summary:
Stephanie Brill talks about how parents, family, and community members can support a child who does not identify with their gender assigned at birth. She explains what parents can say when their child talks to them about their gender, and how to “re-do” conversation if parents say something that they regret, and how to explain their child’s gender to other family members and friends. This is an important presentation for all parents to watch because our children and ALL children are growing up in a much more gender-diverse world than we did.
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Mike Domitrz
Teaching Sexual Consent, Respect, and Communication
Mike Domitrz is known for the impact his programs, trainings, and publications have made across the world for parents, teenagers, families, educational institutions, the US military, and the media. You may have seen him as the featured expert on Dateline NBC’s “My Kid Would Never Do That.”
Today, Mike is one of the leading experts for transforming our sexual culture to one being built on consent and respect – discussing sexual decision-making, asking first, healthy relationships, bystander intervention, and supporting survivors of sexual assault. As the brother of a rape survivor, Mike’s mission is personal.
His ability to share powerful emotional moments (both serious and hilariously funny) while giving readers and audiences realistic “How To” SKILLS to implement in their lives is what separates Mike’s message from other experts and authors. Mike is an author with an unique combination of Provocateur and Advocate who captivates readers throughout his books.
Mike is also the host of The Everyday Mindfulness Show – Dive into fun, thought-provoking, and engaging conversations on everyday mindfulness – from meditation to spirituality to personal passions to success and failure to relationships and much more. The show features special guests and a unique cast of over 70 individuals who are known to stop by and join the vibrant conversation each week.
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Mike Domitrz tackles what is arguably one of the most important and difficult conversations that parents and educators might have with kids–teaching consent–so that young people are empowered to be in charge of their bodies and their sexual experiences can be respectful, mutually desired, and based on healthy communication. So frequently when adults talk to children and teens about sex, the conversation is about what “not to do”. Mike approaches the conversation differently, he talks about what to do, and how to get consent before being intimate with someone. This is a highly recommended conversation!
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Date Safe Project
Everyday Mindfulness Show
STEPHANIE A. BRILL
How to support child on the gender spectrum and why it is vital
Summary:
In recent years it seems like there is quite an increase in kids and teens who don’t identify with their gender assigned at birth. Why is this happening? Is it a good thing? What are the most important things that parents should do if their child wants to express their gender in a different way (by changing their pronouns, dressing differently, etc)? What is gender-affirming health care, and when do kids need it? Stephanie Brill brings wisdom, experience, and level-headedness to this conversation about gender, and guidance about how to best support kids and teens in our families and communities.
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Amy Lang
How (and When) to Talk to Kids about Sex
Amy Lang is a sexuality and parenting expert, and a regular guest on multiple media outlets such as The Wall Street Journal, Salon.com, CNN, The Atlantic, and the Seattle Times, and podcasts like The Savage Lovecast, Tilt Parenting, and The New Family. Amy has worked with parents and professionals from Alaska to Australia, including the Boys & Girls Club, The Air Force Youth and Family Services programs, YMCAs, and multiple PTAs and preschools. Parents and professionals appreciate that she is a fun, smart, and sassy speaker.
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Amy Lang talks about normal sexual behavior at each age. Amy covers it all… from babies and toddlers, playing doctor and kissing games, explaining sex to young kids, middle schoolers going through puberty, high schoolers having relationships, and young adults having their first sexual experiences. Amy is fun and straight-talking. You’ll hear her “secret code name” and 2 words she never uses when talking about sex.
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Day Five
JESSICA LAHEY
How to Prevent Addiction
Jessica Lahey is a teacher, writer, and mom. She writes about education, parenting, and child welfare for The Atlantic, Vermont Public Radio, and the New York Times and is the author of The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed and The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence.
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Jessica Lahey wrote an incredibly important book about how to prevent kids from getting addicted to substances. Jess talks about how you can “stack the odds in your favor” to prevent substance use and abuse by having conversations with your kids, educating them, and helping your kids to understand the risk factors (especially if there is addiction in the family, mental illness, or adverse childhood experiences). She demonstrates a few of the conversations about substances you can have with kids at different ages, starting with preschool-aged kids. Jess also talks about the adolescent brain and why it’s so important to postpone–as long as possible–the first time a teen uses alcohol or drugs.
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DR. ANN-LOUISE LOCKHART
What to do if your child self-harms
She serves as a parent coach for parents who have kids and teens with behavioral and emotional regulation concerns, those diagnosed with ADHD and anxiety, as well as kids who are highly sensitive. She focuses on helping parents adjust their mindset about parenting. Dr. Lockhart helps overwhelmed parents get on the same page and better understand their kids and teens.
Dr. Lockhart has spoken nationally at schools, conferences, online podcasts, summits, and corporate workshops for topics about ADHD, anxiety, executive functioning, emotional dysregulation, and racism.
She has been interviewed and quoted in multiple online and print publications, including ABC News, the New York Times, New York Post, Pure Wow, MSN, Fatherly, Essence, HuffPost, San Antonio Magazine, Veronica Beard, Parents Magazine, and Therapy for Black Girls podcast. She is a Freelance Writer for PBS Kids for Parents, PureWow, and a Contributor for The Gottman Institute and 4Moms. Dr. Lockhart also serves as a Board Member for the Verywell Review Board and Dadditude.
Summary:
The recent increase of kids who struggle with mental health has also increased the number of kids who self-harm or think of suicide. This is a candid conversation with Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart about these difficult topics. (You might want to use headphones if young ears are around.)
We discuss: What is self-harm and why do kids do it? What do you do if your child self-harms? Is there a connection between self-harm and suicide? What are the warning signs of suicide? When should a parent reach out for help and how? What can we do to keep our kids (and their friends) safe from suicide and self-harm? How do you calm yourself down enough to have these tough conversations with your child?
Bottom line: Your relationship with your child matters. Having open, candid conversations can make a huge difference with your child.
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Dr. Christine Carter, author of The Sweet Spot and Raising Happiness, has a unique perspective on how we can find fulfillment, success, and lasting joy in our busy lives. At work, she translates the latest scientific findings–from positive psychology, sociology, research on productivity and elite performance, organizational and management theories, and neuroscience–into action plans for her readers.
Christine Carter is a sociologist and Senior Fellow at UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center, where for many years she was the Executive Director. After receiving her B.A. from Dartmouth College, where she was a Senior Fellow, Dr. Carter worked in marketing management and school administration, going on to receive her Ph.D. in sociology from UC Berkeley.
Dr. Carter has appeared on dozens of television and radio shows, including the “Oprah Winfrey Show,” the “TODAY” show, and “The Daily Show with Jon Stewart.” She has also been quoted or featured in hundreds of newspapers and magazines, including The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, and Real Simple.
She lives with her husband, four kids, and dog Buster in Marin County, California.
Summary:
Dr. Christine Carter talks with us about why this generation of teens is closer to their parents than in previous generations, the downsides of that closeness, but also the bigger upside. We asked her how to use Motivational Interviewing–a powerful technique that help us empower our teens and change their minds. She told us about using Behavioral Plans with teens–how they work and what happens if it falls apart. And we asked her about teens using marijuana. She explained why smoking pot has increased among adolescents, how it affects the adolescent brain, and how to talk to teens about the risks.
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DR. JOHN DUFFY
Parenting a Teen in an Anxious World
Dr. John Duffy is a highly sought-after clinical psychologist, media expert, author of The Available Parent and Parenting the New Teen in the Age of Anxiety. He is the host of the popular Undue Anxiety podcast. Dr. Duffy has been working with individuals, couples, teens, and families for nearly twenty years. He is a regular parenting and relationship expert on Steve Harvey, WGN radio in Chicago and the Morning Blend on NBC TV.
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How do you attune with your kids–especially your teen–without getting on the “roller coaster” of their moods? Parenting is more complicated now than it was a generation ago. If you are parenting a teen, they are growing up in a different world than you did (with social media, e-cigarettes, etc). Dr. John Duffy talks about how to be the parent whose child comes to you with issues (rather than always going to their peers), how to not freak out when your child tells you stuff that’s hard to hear, and how to work with your teen to support them through tough times.
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ROSALIND WISEMAN
Helping Teens (Especially Girls) Navigate Friendships Online
Rosalind Wiseman has had only one job since graduating from college—to help communities shift the way we think about children and teens’ emotional and physical wellbeing. She is the author of several award winning and bestselling books including Queen Bees and Wannabes which was the basis for the movie Mean Girls.
Wiseman is a sought-after speaker on bullying, parenting, ethical leadership, and the use of social media. She has keynoted at the White House, SXSW summit and many others. She was a consultant for Cartoon Network and is an advisor to the US Department of Health and Human Services. She has been profiled in The New York Times, People, Los Angeles Times, Chicago Tribune, The Washington Post, and USA Today, The Today Show, CNN, and NPR.
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Rosalind is a keen observer of teens and their parents. With perspective and insight, she helps bridge the communication and generation gaps that occur in families. We talked about how to balance online safety and kid’s privacy, why teen girls send sexy photos to guys, and if punishing teens for breaking the rules will make them more rebellious or sneaky.
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LESLIE POTTER
Rethinking Boundaries: A New Way Of Looking At Them
Leslie Potter is a psychotherapist, parenting coach, and spiritual inquirer. She became a mom at 44, when she adopted her daughter. Her life’s work is sharing with other parents how they can shift from a controlling fear based relationship with their child to a loving enjoyable reality. She created Purejoy Parenting to help families understand their child’s behavior, accept their feelings, and allow the relationship to flourish.
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Leslie Potter speaks with wisdom and clarity about what boundaries are, and how to create them for our kids and for ourselves. She shares relatable stories and examples of young children and teens. Leslie shows how we can support our kids and create safety, while also giving them the freedom and space they need.
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