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When Parents Get Triggered

How to Reconnect without Guilt, Shame, or Blame

As a parent, you’re juggling many different things. The demands of home and work, caring for yourself and your family members, and a never-ending to-do list, weigh heavily on your shoulders. 

Even as a thoughtful, conscious parent, if your child misbehaves and you’re already stressed out, you might parent in a way that you regret later. Stress robs you of your patience and creativity, and you might say (or do) something that you don’t feel good about. 

When you realize you’ve made a mistake, you beat yourself up. You know you “should” be able to do better. (You’ve read, studied, and worked on your parenting skills already.) But in the heat of the moment, you can’t remember what to do and all your skills go out the window. 

Worse yet, you then worry that you’ve damaged your child, and you mentally beat yourself up more. The “stress-explode-regret” cycle continues.

What if there was another way? What if there were things that even the most well-informed parents weren’t taught growing up?

We asked a few of the top parenting experts how to escape this cycle. They have simple tools and guilt-free techniques that parents can do when they get triggered and are trying to control their own behavior (or emotions) in the moment. There are ways that parents can be their best, even when they are in survival mode and their kids are acting out.

Non-judgemental, Warmth and Encouragement
That Even Insightful Parents Need

Dr. Shefali Tsabary

Dr. Shefali Tsabary

Clinical Psychologist, Keynote Speaker, Author of The Conscious Parent, Out of Control, The Awakened Family, and more

The Awakened Family

  • Understand why life is actually an inward (rather than outward) journey
  • What to do when you start thinking that the outside needs to be constantly fixed and controlled
  • How your ego or identity might get triggered because of the closeness of your relationship with your child
  • What attunement is and how to use it to be open and trusting, but not over do it
  • Tools you can use to anchor yourself so you can know yourself more deeply
Kim John Payne

Kim John Payne

Counselor, Author of Being At Your Best When Your Kids Are At Their Worst

Being At Your Best When Your Kids Are At Their Worst
  • What to do when your child “acts out” and pushs your buttons 
  • One thing all kids do, no matter their age, to seek out their parent’s help for their emotions
  • How to be with your child in difficult moments, without even using words
  • How to help our kids orient to themselves again and regain their emotional bearings
Keira Merkovsky

Keira Merkovsky

Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Founder of Relationship Cubed

Using Awareness and Tools to Transform Triggers
  • 3 steps you can use to get out of an unhelpful cycle with your child
  • How to respond when a child doesn’t listen
  • How to increase your self awareness and clarify your parenting values
  • Tools you can use to regulate your emotions
Dr. Carrie Contey
Dr. Carrie Contey

Psychologist, Parenting Coach, Author

Triggers: How to Tame Your Most Reactive Behaviors
  • What current neuroscience says about what triggers are (the big feelings we have, that are usually from unfinished business in our past)
  • How you can care for yourself, recover and move beyond a trigger with your child
  • Practical tools, including things to do and say, when you get triggered
Dr. Lynyetta Willis
Dr. Lynyetta Willis

Licensed Psychologist, Creator of Triggered to Transformed

How to Transform your Parenting Triggers
  • What parenting triggers are and what you can do instead
  • Why doing deep breathing instead of yelling probably won’t work in the long term
  • 4 powerful steps that you can use starting now to transform your triggers for the long term
Tosha Schore
Tosha Schore

Founder of Parenting Boys Peacefully, Parent Coach

Addressing Kid’s Aggressive Behavior & Our Triggers
  • Understand what is actually going on when a child acts aggressively
  • What parents sometimes do that makes aggression worse, and what to do instead
  • What to do when you get scared of your child’s behavior, especially if your child is a boy
  • How to effectively address aggressive behavior while in heat of the moment or afterward

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For This Short Course, We Brought Together Some of the Top Experts in the Field

Dr. Shefali Tsabary

Dr. Shefali Tsabary

World-renowned Clinical Psychologist, Doctorate from Columbia University, specializing in the integration of Eastern philosophy and Western psychology, Keynote Speaker, Author of The Conscious Parent, Out of Control, The Awakened Family, and more.

Kim John Payne

Kim John Payne

Author of Simplicity Parenting, The Soul of Discipline, Being At Your Best When Your Kids Are At Their Worst, and more, School Counselor, Consultant, Researcher, Educator, Private Family Counselor

Keira Merkovsky

Keira Merkovsky

Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Parent Educator, and the Founder of Relationship Cubed

Dr. Carrie Contey

Dr. Carrie Contey

Ph.D. in Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology, Parenting Coach, Speaker and Author

Dr. Lynyetta Willis

Dr. Lynyetta Willis

Licensed Psychologist, Parent Coach, Speaker, Author, Specializing in Trauma; Parenting and Couples, Mindfulness, Stress Reduction, and Spiritually-Centered Therapy

Tosha Schore

Tosha Schore

Founder of Parenting Boys Peacefully, Parent Coach, Speaker and Co-Author of Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges

Cecilia and Jason

Course creators:
Cecilia and Jason Hilkey

Cecilia and Jason are the founders of Happily Family whose mission is to connect parents of challenging kids to the understanding support, research-based tools, and expert guidance they need the most. They believe that parenting is one of the most rewarding, challenging, and transformative opportunities we have as humans. They’ve conducted over 250 interviews of parenting and education experts, authors, therapists, and researchers. They’ve presented at conferences, schools and businesses in the US and abroad. Since 2012, their online programs and events have reached more than 500,000 parents and professionals in over 200 countries. They are both Early Childhood Educators–Cecilia Hilkey, MA is a pediatric Occupational Therapist and Jason Hilkey has a degree in Math and Computer Science. They are the proud parents of two wonderful young adults.
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  • Option: Professionally-formatted typed transcripts of the sessions, to make review and action simple

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Wow!! Incredible! I have laughed and cried! But most of all I have come away with such an amazing renewed sense of who I am as a mom and how to continue the journey that I honor and cherish day after day. Thank you so much!
 – Dana A.

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Thank you so much for all the valuable and insightful information. It is SO very comforting to know you are supported and never, ever alone on this life, parenting journey!! It’s people like you that make such a huge difference. Thank you for sharing and caring! May you stay well and be blessed.
– Eli B.

Hi Cecilia and Jason, I want to say a heartfelt thank you. [My parenting] is getting deeper, clearer, yet lighter. More bite-sized and digestible. It stays with me… There is no way around doing our deep inner work… I just had a meeting with my young son's teacher and middle school representative… I was able to show up in a warm and connected way, yet not shrink back from any of the potentially tough questions… I left the fear and charge behind and bought only openness and attention. I was most wonderfully supported by the modeling you and Jason did… Thank you! …With immense appreciation & love.
 – Katerina

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– Dr. Kirstin B.

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Thank you for all that you do!!! [This] has been stellar and I am so grateful to the speakers and for all the effort Jason and Cecilia and their team put in, to make it so impactful and meaningful!
With love and respect, a mom in Mexico, looking to get a little bit better every day!
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